Writing is really difficult; this isn't a secret. It takes a lot of hard work to bring a story to life, to spend hours editing and revising it, to start querying, to face rejections and setbacks. Writing is not for the faint of heart. Writers persevere because we love writing, because we can't imagine not writing. As today is Valentine's Day, I wanted to write a little post to remind you all to keep that love alive, to love what you do.
We all know that writing comes with its own special challenges. Most of us have full-time jobs, families, friends, other responsibilities that demand our time and attention. Sometimes, it can feel like there isn't enough time to do everything that we want to do. Writing can be stressful, especially when you are balancing it against everything else going on in your life. Within the grind of writing and editing, it can be easy to get consumed by stress and frustration. Don't forget why you started, why you write. You write because you love it.
Of course, love isn't always the honeymoon phase. It would be great if we could always write with a smile, feeling happy and excited about the work we are doing, but that isn't the reality. The work that writers do is hard and sometimes it is going to feel like a miserable slog. But when the work starts to feel hopeless or discouraging, it might be time to take a step back, to remember why you started.
So, when the work starts to feel like it is too much, like it is grinding you down, take some time away from it. Reread a book that you absolutely love, write a little short story that is fun and just for you, try reading or writing a new genre, fall in love with writing all over again. It won't always be sunshine and rainbows, but the love you have for what you do should help you persist through the dark and difficult times.